Gary R. Oppelt

November 12, 2023
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Middlesex – Gary R. Oppelt, age 77, passed away on Nov. 12, 2023.

A Firemen’s Service will be held at the Rushville United Methodist Church at 2 p.m. on Saturday (Nov. 18th). A Memorial Service will immediately follow at the church. A Reception will be held at the Middlesex Hose Company following the services.

A private burial will be in Overackers Cemetry.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to the Middlesex Hose Company, P.O. Box 145, Middlesex, NY 14507; or the Rushville Congregational Church, P.O. Box 1, Rushville, NY 14544.

Gary was born in Rochester, NY, the son of the late Robert C. Oppelt and Maxine Button Oppelt. He was a 1964 graduate of Fairport High School. Gary married Anetta Louise Schmill in 1967.

Gary was General Manager of Dudley Poultry in Middlesex for 34 years, until his retirement. He was actively involved in the Rushville Congregational Church and the Middlesex Hose Company. Gary was a Deacon and Trustee in his church, and often led parts of the services there.

Gary was a 53-year member of the Middlesex Hose Company, and was currently Vice-President. He headed up numerous committees and was currently a Commissioner for the Middlesex Fire District.

Gary was devoted to God, his family and his community. He enjoyed camping, stock car racing, all sports and working on his house and property.

 Gary is survived by his wife of 56 years, Anetta; daughter, Michelle (Kenneth Clark) Oppelt; son, Brian (Cassandra Smith) Oppelt; two grandchildren, Lily Wood and Thomas Oppelt; brother, Richard (Laurel) Oppelt; sisters-in-law, Barbara Caruana, Janice (Joe) DeChirico and Donna (Larry) Storey; and several nieces and nephews.

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Firemen's Service and Celebration of Life

Rushville United Methodist Church

Saturday, November 18, 2023
2:00 PM
Rushville United Methodist Church
North Main Street, Rushville
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Reception after funeral services

Middlesex Hose Company

Middlesex Hose Co
Water Street, Middlesex
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Vera Parker from Naples New York on Nov. 14, 2023

I am so very sorry for your loss. Keeping you all in my thought and prayers.

Linda Turner from Canandaigua, New York on Nov. 14, 2023

Anetta, Michelle and Brian sending caring and healing thoughts to each of you. Your memories will be a blessing in time and a treasure. Linda

Nancy J Hey from Zephyrhills FL November 14. on Nov. 14, 2023

Annetta and Family - I’m so sorry to hear about Gary. And He will be Missed at Rushville Congregational Church very much. Enjoyed talking to Gary at the Church in the Summer. My prayers are with You and Family 🙏

Steve Gulvin from Churchville on Nov. 15, 2023

So very sorry for your loss. I got to know Gary over 45 years ago when I started calling on the Fire Department to sell them fire equipment. I would often stop at Dudley Poultry during the day and chat with him. In all my dealings and conversations with him I grew to know a very friendly, honest, level headed and down to earth person. I always looked forward to any conversation that we had on many topics including fire department items. Take care and cherish the memories.

Wayne & Leslie Smith from Canandaigua, NY on Nov. 15, 2023

All our prayers to Gary's family. He will be missed at the Middlesex Roast Beef Dinners, as he loved to take our money.. Gary was the best

ROBERT COHEN from WEBSTER,NY on Nov. 15, 2023

I'm so sorry to hear about Gary passing away. Please know you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. I always enjoyed working with Gary and I will miss him and promise to stay in touch after I retire this year.
Love you,

Dale Conway from East Bloomfield, NY on Nov. 15, 2023

Anetta and the Oppelt family,

My heart has a giant void in realizing Gary will not be with us. His spirit, and remembrance of his humor will live on in all of us who knew him. Rest in peace, my friend. God be with you until we meet again.

Karen Mathis from Webster NY on Nov. 15, 2023

Anetta and family,
Sincerely sorry for your loss.. May all of the wonderful memories of family and friends give you comfort in this difficult time.
May Gary Rest in Peace.
Karen and Jim Mathis

Charmaine DeChirico from Keller, Texas on Nov. 16, 2023

We are so very sorry for your loss. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers.

Pam Fingar from Branchport, NY on Nov. 16, 2023

I am very sorry to read of Gary’s passing. I will always remember how he helped get the beer for the County Emergency Services picnic at Millerland for me. I was too young to buy it. Those were great times. Thank you for sharing such a great man with all of us. My sincerest condolences go out to all of you.

Beth Bingham from Middlesex on Nov. 16, 2023

Heartfelt condolences Anetta and family. What a legacy he left... may God's grace hold you. Hugs, Beth

Edna Silvernail from 61 Country Downs Circle, Fairport, New York, 14450 on Nov. 16, 2023

Gary. My dear friend of more than 50 years. A wonderful host who made the best chicken wings anywhere! Husband, father, community servant--a life so well-lived. Carl and I loved vacationing with the Oppelts. So many memories of the Adirondacks, Cape Cod, Montreal, Vegas.... You will be missed, dear friend. Rest in Peace.

John and Jeanne Ryan from Las Vegas NV on Nov. 29, 2023

Anita, Jeanne and I are so sorry to hear about Gary. I have known Gary for 73 years. A great friend and neighbor when in Fairport. He will be missed.

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